⏰ Burn your to-do list

Plus 'boomerasking' and navigating a breakup.

View this email in your browser MONDAY WARMUP 💪 Try this: When alone time is bumming you out, cheer yourself up by doing something you enjoy. So, even if you have to clean the house or WFH all by your lonesome, treat yourself to a show afterward or play that video game you just bought—whatever makes you smile or feel better about being solo. Think on this: What's a goal you set in the past that didn't come to fruition? Is there anything you can learn from that? Remember this: Change is often uncomfortable. Read this: 23 Ways to Get Through a Breakup WHY ARE WE LIKE THIS? 🙃 Coping with stress by trying to do everything perfectly Convinced that an overpriced candle will heal us Found guilty of 'boomerasking' Unable to talk about politics without losing our minds Perpetually daydreaming about going back to bed Were you forwarded this email? Click here to subscribe for free. LET'S TALK NUMBERS We spend a lot of time talking about money—how to get more of it, keep it, and then get some more—but it turns out it's not the top priority for many people when it comes to a job. A recent survey found that 50% of people in the U.S. would opt for a low-paying job that brings them joy, compared to 26% who would prefer a high-paying job that they hate (24% weren't sure what they would choose). This probably won't be surprising to anyone who's ever had a soul-sucking job. ASK THE EXPERT 📞 My life is extra busy lately and I'm so overwhelmed. How can I actually prioritize when I have a million things to do? It's no secret that life can be…a lot. Keeping up with your job, maintaining relationships, and tackling adult responsibilities can easily fill an entire weekend. We've all got stuff to do and limited time to do it, but sometimes that mountain of tasks seems totally insurmountable. You know that prioritizing is the only way you'll get it all done. But how exactly do you prioritize when everything feels equally urgent and the list just keeps getting longer? We asked the experts for their best tips, below. 1. Start with a quick feelings audit to figure out the biggest burden. Instead of diving right into an arbitrary task, take a beat to consider what you're feeling and all the factors contributing to that. Your answers will help you map out where to direct your time and energy, says psychiatrist Jessi Gold, MD. Are you spiraling because you don't know how everything on your calendar will get done or because you don't know where to start? Are you frustrated with your partner for slacking on chores? Are you angry because you don't feel valued by your boss or a friend who keeps bailing on plans? For example, if your partner isn't pulling their weight, you might be better off having a conversation rather than reorganizing your to-do list. If feeling under-appreciated at work is the source of your frustration, maybe spending more time looking for a new role should move to the top of your agenda. 2. Don't skip over the basics. Not to add more to your to-do list, but making time for some very basic self-care tasks isn't going to derail your whole day. Actually, it can help you better show up for everyone and everything on your list.  So if you're not sure what to prioritize first, start here: eat breakfast, brush your teeth, spend five minutes journaling (or meditate, go on a walk, or whatever activity boosts your mental health). Then take on the rest of your day.  Keep reading for 5 more tips to help you prioritize and get sh*t done! READ MORE ON THAT NOTE Are You Stressed, Anxious, or Overwhelmed? 25 Ways to Ask for Help That Actually Work (and Aren't Scary) READ MORE READ MORE Are You Stressed, Anxious, or Overwhelmed? READ MORE 25 Ways to Ask for Help That Actually Work (and Aren't Scary) READ MORE 🎧 What we're listening to: I wish you were right here. NEED HELP NOW? These resources can help. SAMHSA National Helpline Suicide Prevention Lifeline The Trevor Project Trans Lifeline Advertise With Us PR Inquiries Want to unsubscribe? Click here to take a break.   Copyright © 2022 Wondermind. All rights reserved.   228 Park Avenue South, Suite 26327, New York, NY 10003   All products featured on Wondermind are independently selected by our editors. However, when you buy something through our retail links, we may earn an affiliate commission.   DISCLAIMER: THIS NEWSLETTER DOES NOT PROVIDE MEDICAL ADVICE The information contained in this newsletter is for informational purposes only. This newsletter is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or treatment and before undertaking a new health care regimen, and never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have read in this newsletter.