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View this email in your browser MONDAY WARMUP 💪 Try this: If you feel like someone in your life isn't meeting your needs, don't assume they can (or should) read your mind. Instead of silently stewing over it, calmly tell them what you'd like more of and why, and notice how they respond. Remember, it's not needy or wrong to express what you want.  Think on this: When was the last time you felt like you wouldn't be able to survive or overcome something? How did that turn out? Remember this: No one is happy every hour of the day. Read this: 8 Uncomfy Things That Are Totally Normal to Talk About in Therapy WELL, THIS IS DELIGHTFUL ✨ "Energizing hobbies" are here to take bed rotting's throne Yes, your inner child has a lot to teach you 15 brilliant texts to send someone you're missing Could rethinking your definition of success boost your mental health? Could really go for a brainwash right now Were you forwarded this email? Click here to subscribe for free. LET'S TALK NUMBERS If you've ever spent the night tossing and turning with no sleep in sight, then you know how miserable it can be. Unsurprisingly, poor mental health is a common cause of sleep disruption, and that can be especially true in our oh-so-anxious 20s, a recent survey found. In fact, 42% of millennials said that mental health struggles kept them up in their 20s, much more than previous generations. File under: another fun side effect of being a millennial! ASK THE EXPERT 📞 How can I learn more about myself (besides therapy)? We're all just out here trying to ~find ourselves~, right? It's very human to be curious about what moves you, motivates you, and makes you…well…you. Which brings us to the fun and sometimes frightening practice of self-discovery.  The American Psychological Association defines self-discovery as "the process of searching for and finding one's unique self or identity." In other words, it's everything that makes you who you are, like your personality, interests, goals, beliefs, values, and cultural background, says psychotherapist Sharon Martin, DSW, LCSW.  Yeah, there's a lot of ground to cover. And because we're constantly changing, it's very unlikely that your journey of self-discovery will be wrapped up in a little bow anytime soon. Honestly, we all might still be discovering things about ourselves when we're 80, and that's OK. The goal isn't to figure yourself out as fast as possible. So, what is the point? Self-discovery is important for your mental health and self-love for a few reasons. When you know what matters to you and you lean into that, you feel like you have purpose, says Dr. Martin. Also, knowing who you are means you can find people you share similarities with, says licensed psychologist Jeannette Craigfeld, PsyD, helping you feel seen and supported.  While therapy is great, you don't need to be in therapy to learn more about yourself. You can do a ton of self-discovery work on your own, without the help of a mental health pro. Here's how.  1. Spend time reflecting on yourself—by yourself. It's easy to get caught up in what your family, friends, or society at large thinks is best for you. And it can sometimes be hard to separate those narratives from what you actually desire out of life. So, solo time can give you space to reflect on things that make you who you are, like your interests and values, without feeling like you need to meet others' expectations, says Dr. Craigfeld.  While you're by yourself, try journaling or thinking about these get-to-know-you questions from Dr. Martin:  • What's something I believe in strongly? • What's been the most meaningful experience so far in my life? • What do I like to do for fun? • What are some things I'm worried about? • What are my goals? • What am I feeling? Keep reading for 4 more tips for getting to know yourself better. READ MORE ON THAT NOTE QQ: What Are My Values and What Do I Do With Them? How to Get to the Bottom of What You're Feeling—Without a Therapist READ MORE READ MORE QQ: What Are My Values and What Do I Do With Them? READ MORE How to Get to the Bottom of What You're Feeling—Without a Therapist READ MORE 🎧 What we're listening to: It's been too long to feel this strong. 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